LET IT aLL sTART hERE
For Catholics who care...
All week I have been searching for the notice of my friend Gary G.’s death in the local newspaper. I found that there was no “notice” of him, no obituary. Its absence caused me to pause and wonder: Why? Someone said: He didn’t want anyone to have to spend the money on him....” As if $1.25 a word to write a life, or to acknowledge a soul’s passing, would break anyone. But perhaps my friend didn’t see the value in his own life. There is where the shame of it lies. So I ask myself: How do we live worthy lives?
Obituaries are not unlike resumes. Both are a “summing up” of one’s history. Both try to convince the reader that the person whose name appears in the bold letters is or was “somebody”. So, in a way, a person becomes a product or a thing that is “sold”. Sadly, if the product isn’t or wasn’t useful enough... it is in that same way... discontinued. Not thought of. Not noted.
I have built a lot of resumes in my time. I’m good at constructing a life that “sells”. And yet if I were to die tomorrow, would the notice of my death convince anyone I was worth knowing? I hope someone would spend $55.00 on an "obit" and write the following about me: She was poor in spirit. She was meek. She mourned and was comforted. She hungered and thirst for justice. She was merciful. She was clean of heart. She was a peacemaker. She suffered persecution for justice’ sake. And . . . The kingdom of heaven is hers!
I will miss my friend Gary whom God sent into my life to assist me in living a life of value.