LET IT aLL sTART hERE
For Catholics who care...
I was constructing a post inviting my readers to "keep watch" with Christ during first Friday Holy Hour when this email came in from a friend who is in her early sixties and who is struggling with the passing of time and it's effects on her physical beauty:
"I was good. Now I am crashing and suicidal. Ugh.
I miss you too. Really a lot. I hate being old."
I have suspended the usual programming to bring you this message.
I have written the following letter to a mutual friend about the plight of our other "aging "friend: I hope there is some value in it for all who read along.
My Dear Friend: If you study the conversations we have
had about living "uncoupled" and tease out the sentiment
behind them...you don't sound much different then Tess
when she proceeds to intonate these familiar words:
I hate being old. Honestly, by your constantly revisiting the
reputation of the younger version of yourself, the woman
you once were...you are saying the same thing.
In Ronald Rolheiser's book The Holy Longing, he speaks
directly to this problem. I want you to read this book.
There is chapter that addresses relationships:
How they change and how they are sometimes lost
in the process of evolving. Rolheiser reminds us of the
antidote that Christ came to dispense.
Remember, we possess an innumerable amount of relationships:
Tangible and intangible, with living things and with objects.
We are often consumed by these relationships. We think about them
often, they effect our lives greatly. But rarely do we reflect on
the one we have with self.
The aging process is analogous to the vitally important lesson
Jesus offers in and through the Paschal Mystery. Rolheiser
reminds us "that there is a time for everything and a season for
every activity under heaven". Ecclesiastes 3:1
I wont try explain what Rolheiser has to teach us. I would
ask that you read The Holy Longing because I couldn't do
Rolheiser's understanding and sense of spirituality justice.
I love this book! I found the answers I was searching
for in Rolheiser's writings. Get yourself a copy.